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Lifestyle by Kilronis @ aurora{Kil}

 

Emotions of Men and Women

By Kilronis and aurora{Kil}

 

Emotions of a Man

"We met in the center of the room and embraced. I wept, and he did, too, without shame. I learned later that on this alien world a strong man may feel and express emotions, and that the hypocrisy of constraint is not honored on this planet as it is on mine."
- Tarnsman of Gor, page 21

Historically speaking, men have always been considered standoffish, aloof or detached from their feelings. In many mindsets this continues to ring true mostly in part to the feeling that to protect one’s interests it must be done with extreme prejudice and without remorse. In many aspects, this remains quite true even today in both modern society and what appears to be the case in online IRC Gor.

Online, I see people ridiculing others just on the basis that they see things differently than the mainstream. They are shunned and outcast because of this as well. Too many see being Gorean as being rough and gruff individuals that beat their chests and scream, "UGH! ME TOUGH," when in fact this is the farthest thing from the truth. Goreans in the books are a very emotional people. They do not hide their feelings and they do not speak in whispers about others. When one Gorean man has issue with another, it is addressed openly and directly into that man’s face. Whatever happened to the premise of any being were a stranger and enemy until such time as they proved themselves? It seems to me these days that respect is expected to be granted from day one. It does not work that way.

How does this equate to the Gorean M/s relationship? It is an integral part of it. In the books, slaves are property. An object to be used as the owner sees fit, nothing more. Is this the planet Gor, or the planet Earth? The bottom line is that any woman that is slave is also a human being with needs, desires, dreams and goals. How should these be channeled? If the slave is to devote her entire being to the man that owns her, should the man also not equally care for the slave? What will occur when she is not cared for in the manner of nutritional, emotional and psychological needs? She will wither and die, or she will simply leave. Can any one person honestly say with 100% certainty that ANY human female would not leave if she were mistreated in such a manner?

As men, we can not fear to feel and express those feelings. To do so is to turn our backs on the very thing that Goreans hold most dear: Individual freedom.

"Tears are not unbecoming to the soldier," said Callimachus. "The soldier is a man of deep passions, and emotion. Many men cannot even understand his depths. Do not fear your currents and your powers. In the soldier are flowers and storms. Each is a part of him, and each is real. Accept both. Deny neither."
- Guardsman of Gor - page 238

Next month: Conformity

I wish all well

.

Kilronis


In denying it we deny our own nature. In betraying it we betray no one but ourselves. The master will never be happy until he is a master. The slave will never be happy until she is a slave. It is what we are.
- Explorers of Gor, page 159


Emotions of a Woman

 

"Slavery to the woman is more than a sexual matter, though sexuality is intimately and profoundly involved in it, essentially, crucially and ultimately. It is an entire mode of being, an entire way of life, one intimately associated with love and service."
- Vagabonds of Gor, page 53

Master Kilronis and I often talk about various subjects. Recently we've been discussing human emotions and how it applies to Mastery and slavery. More so to the point of the biological relationship between a man and a woman in the natural state of progression in life. I've read many essays over the years and listened to many discussions about the Master/slave relationship. However, I find that no discussion or book can really teach you the nature of the relationship besides experience.

The emotions you feel when first kneeling at the feet of your owner are something that cannot really be expressed or even turned into words in my humble opinion. I guess the thought of kneeling at my Masters feet in real life were very scarey ones at first. It turned out to not be as scarey as I thought it would be, but instead I found great happiness and joy at being allowed there. I looked up at him for a brief moment and realized that I was a happily owned girl truely for the first time. That brief glimpse changed a world of emotions inside of me. It turned me from a very frightened and unsure girl, into a girl with only wishes to please my Master.

In service you can find the devotion of your slavery, you can find beauty and absolute obedience to a certain point. However, I think slavery goes much deeper than most things will every touch your life or your heart. I feel that in order to find the true bonds of your slavery you must love the one you are submitted and surrendered to. Within the bonds of love the slave becomes the deepest of girls in a condition of serving and pleasing the man she kneels before.

You don't have to love your Master in order to be a surrendered slave, but I don't feel that its total surrender if you still don't have the emotional entanglement of the bonds that tie you to him. Love slaves were stated as the deepest within the bonds of slavery in the books, however in philosophical terms we can see various examples of why love would give you the embondment of your slavery as a whole.

Emotions can change as you grow within your life, within your slavery, even within the relationship to the man you serve. However, these changes may not always become apparent until you have a period of self reflection and analyzation of what you think and how you feel. It's within those times that I've learned the most about myself and my slavery. It's in those times that I've learned and grown at my Masters feet. Its also those times in which I've found that the bond of our relationship has grown the most.

For me the emotions of my slavery are something that I hold dear to my heart. They are something that I can't really put into words in one essence for they are the biological nature of a woman who is learning to please and be pleasing to a man she loves more than life itself. It's within the bonds of his collar and the guidance of his Mastery that I follow a journey that I dont quite understand. Within that journey I find happiness and a great sense of pleasure in being pleasing to him and his wishes. It's a journey that I dont fathom can end on any one note or another, but is always continuous and a learning path for both sides.

"I knelt before the man. He stood before me, legs spread, arms crossed, looking down at me. Gone from me in that moment, with the blood that ran from my mouth, were my illusions. No longer did I decieve myself that I might be his equal. That farcicality of that illusion was now transparent to me. The pitifulness of that pretense vanished before the simple, incontrovertible biological reality which had been impressed upon me, a female. How beautiful to men must be a women, I thought, who are at their feet. I wondered, freightened, if it were at the feet of men, or at least at the feet of such men as this, that woman belonged, if that might be the unperverted order of nature. The thought of dominance and submission, pervasive in the animal kingdom, universal among primates, ran through my head. Never before had I so clearly, and profoundly, understood the meaning of those words. I looked up at him. I was frightened. My world, I knew, had chosen to deny and subvert biology. This world, I gathered, had not. Before him I knelt terrified, his."
- Slave Girl of Gor, page 35

Wishing everyone well,

Property of Kilronis,
aurora{Kil}

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