Greetings, Masters, Mistresses, and kajirae,

Welcome to kajira korner!

This month there were quite a few questions in regard to a specific subject that kajira will address over all, as they didn’t want specifics entered into the article. Please, as always, if you have any comments, thoughts, or concerns feel free to email them to kajira_korner2002@yahoo.com.

The specific question that has come up several times this month was, “Is it possible for a kajira to be abused?” The answer is, “yes.” As in any lifestyle we choose to live, we need to remember that while choosing to live our lives a certain way, we are not on the planet Gor. In this world, Earth, there have to be two adults giving consent and continuing to give consent to a long-term power-exchange relationship.

To be Gorean does not mean that BDSM needs to be incorporated into the lifestyle. Being Gorean relates more to what this kajira would call a naturalistic philosophy. This girl was taught that this means that men are usually more dominant, and that women are usually more submissive. For example, in nature, it is not the female bear that is the aggressor unless she fears for her cubs’ safety. Usually, the male bears are more dominant and territorial.

With that said, yes, a kajira can be abused. As kajirae, although we are slaves, there are also safety points to keep in mind. In all relationships, be it nilla, BDSM, or Gorean, each person in that relationship has a responsibility. The master’s responsibility is to take care of the kajira. The kajira’s responsibility is to take care of the master and serve him without questioning him. A kajira can be loving, loyal, and devoted, just as a pet can be, yet both can be abused. There can be a fine line between Battered Women’s Syndrome and being a kajira. This means that while kajirae are subject to strong punishments, there is a difference between abuse and being punished. Please don’t get this kajira wrong when she speaks of this, as she has also been subject to discipline with a whip. When “punishment” or “discipline” crosses a breaking point, and for each girl that point is different, something needs to be talked about between the master and the slave.

Part of a master’s responsibility is to watch for the slave’s reactions in order to see how much the slave can or can not handle in punishment or pleasure. Please remember that at times, masters will push us beyond our limits for the purpose of pleasure. What kajira is talking about is different from that. If actions or scenes are done carelessly, they can create not only physical scars but leave very deep emotional and psychological scars that might not heal even after physical scars are long gone. For example, it is very dangerous for a master to take a tool into his hands if he doesn’t know how to use it. It is also very dangerous for a slave to beg a collar from a master whom she does not know or fully trust. A kajira needs to remember that by begging a collar from a master, she is handing every aspect of her life over to that man, trusting him to lead and to guide her through the harshest of times.

There are basic human needs that a kajira needs to survive, such as air, water, and food. One girl wrote stating that she feared for her life after her master had not let her eat anything for five days and had allowed her only one glass of water each day. To this kajira, if may she be so bold to say, that would be considered abuse. The basic needs of life are not being met. This kajira wrote her back asking if the girl had talked to her master about her concerns. This girl also told her that if she had and then had not gotten a resolution, she should seek help from family, friends, or even a battered women’s shelter. Safety issues do not take away from the fullness of living as a kajira.

In today’s society, genuine abuse is on the rise, so please make sure that you understand the difference between punishment and abuse and that you always communicate with the master you serve.

The next issue that kajira was asked about this month regarded a master and slave being invited to the home of another master and slave couple for a few days.

This kajira can state freely that while in another Gorean master’s home, she has always served, be it drinks or food. When there has been a girl of the home, this girl has worked along side of her. Nine out of ten times when kajira has talked to different masters about this subject, they have all agreed that kajirae should be working together in serving the free, with each kajira serving her own master. This can be a rather touchy subject. A master can feel disrespect if told that his own girl can not serve him in the host’s home, while a host might wish to limit what guests can do in his home. If the master of the home is not willing to let the visiting girl serve, she might be permitted to ask how else she can be of service in his home. Maybe he will allow you to clean up or do chores of some sort. Many of the masters’ comments on the situation were specific: “If I go somewhere, I expect my girl to participate in serving. She is a slave not a FW, and I will not have her served as one.” It feels strange to be served and not be serving when one tries to follow the slave belly that burns so brightly to serve and please the one whose collar she wears.

Always remember to communicate with your owner about how you are feeling, and if he thinks this of this as an issue, let him deal with it as he sees fit. This kind of situation can be a learning experience for all involved.

This kajira wishes to end on this note:

“‘The life of a female slave,’ he said, ‘is a life wholly given over to love. It is not a compromised life. It is not one of those lives which is part this, and part that. It is a total way of life, a total life.’” John Norman, Mercenaries of Gor, page 435