The Basis of a Practical Relationship Between a Man and His Woman

Shared Vision for the Future; Four of Four

4 of 4 in the series part 1 is: HERE part 2 is: HERE part 3 is: HERE

Shared Vision for the Future

Two points of travel effectually meeting at the same end of destination

"Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you".

It is no secret that we as individuals stick with what we are comfortable with, and consort with those who share our ideals, and future hopes. I believe this is why the Gorean Philosophy has its set groups of folks that bind to each other in life, and in discussions spread across the net. They have found within each other the same effectual vision, and intend by all purpose to stride into the future with those goals, and visions. Those of like mind, and heart seem to find one another in that mythical haystack I feel it is very much the same in matters of romance and love. In my opinion relationships are not based on opposites attracting. It is the shared vision of many different subjects that make that final statement of connecting. In the previous series I mentioned some of these points which I feel bind a relationship under the Philosophy of Gor.

(Series 1 Physical)

Physical Desire : Sexual expectations of one another, in a relationship, cannot be assumed or imagined. These things must be carefully and honestly discussed to the fullest potential. The reason why this matter is of great importance is because of the physical basis of the relationship. It is a known fact that 80 percent of the relationships between two genders are based on a physical need of one another. We are kidding ourselves and our potential lovers in believing we are with them just because of the friendship involved. We are animalistic in our needs and desires of reproducing, and enjoyment of intimacy.

(Series 2 Honesty)

Honesty : The truth gives us freedom to be who we were meant to be. Forthright, honest, and no barriers to our love. Women have been known in past times to be caregivers, and nurturing souls. I think that it could only be to our benefit to ensure these traits return tenfold when dealing with our personal relationships. Afterall, life is too short as it is.

(Series 3 Value)

Value : We have determined that there are several factors in enabling a successful recipe to a relationship in the philosophy of Gor. These tools based on the Philosophy enable us to achieve a higher standard of value, Unmitigated honesty, and the desire to be physically pleasing to one another. A female will find no objection in being desirable, and surrendering her femininity to her life partner. A male will be have no objection to being the captain of his soul, and his life thereof. He will not be mandated by Societies failure to recognize the masculinity which is his right. He is not compromised by his maleness or his values, he embraces them into his life.

Our life mates, are the ultimate reward for the achievements we have guarenteed in this existance.They represent our own value in ourselves, and ensure our growth in the future. It is these complex relationships I believe that we draw our strength from. I feel because of these relationships we intialize into our lives traits blossom into work ethics, and in socializing with our friends. I can`t speak of a person who doesn`t rationalize this type of relationship for their future. Frankly, I don't know a single person who doesn't desire the right to find that special person to share with.

"That which you call your soul or spirit is your consciousness, and that which you call your free will is your mind's freedom to think or not, the only will you have, your only freedom, the choice that controls all the choices you make and determines your life and your character."

In the end there is always one person to whom we face, ourselves. That is our judge and jury. We know inside our minds, and hearts. What is right, and what is wrong according to our own ethical make up, and how we apply those values to our every day tasks, and over all crediablity as a sound and fair person. Sometimes those choices border on bitterness from the past, and in effect poor choices for our future. The responsiblity in those choices are simple. They are ours. Each of us has free will to use as we see fit. It can be assumed that others affect our over all decisions by opinion. This is a possible route in understanding a females need to fit a mould. The mould though is a representation of self. If it is your choice to accept another persons opinion of you, and your needs that renders that opinion as fact if you choose to take it as your own. The responsiblity is still yours. You made the choice. Shared vision is my statement of saying "find you, and in that paralell you find what you seek".

I know how difficult it is to find that shared vision. I know I too have baggage that has followed me through the years. I can only hope that I have attempted to change how I feel about that baggage, and turn it in to something of a lesson learned. Afterall, life is in my minds eye is a severe form of Education. Not always do we find that passing grade to swim by. I feel Gor and all of its complex ideals, and ethical make up is not for everyone. I know you hear that statement often. Those who are excluded from this usually attempt by emotional terror to mis-represent the actuality of it all. It is unfortunate at best.

"But it cannot be done without your consent. If you permit it to be done, you deserve it".

The summary to this entire series was a selfish idea for myself. I wished to voice what would work for me, and in that it may work for others. I used my knowledge to the best of my ability to put together a menu in which to base my ideals of what relationships would comprise of. If it helped anyone else reason out the common thoughts of what would be, and should be I am pleased.

I end with this simple quote, as I wish you well in the same breath. I have a passion, that passion is the Philosophy Of Gor.

"I am lonely, Thurnock," I said.

"All men are, from time to time, lonely, said Thurnock."

"I am alone." I said.

"Except when they are touched by love," said Thurnock, "all men are alone".

Nyre

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Quotes taken from Norman Series, Ayn Rand