"...A FreeWoman does not learn overnight how to behave. She learns from childhood. The Gorean girl is, even if free, accustomed to slavery; she knows that she is weaker than men and what this can mean; she knows that cities fall, and caravans are plundered; she knows she might even, by a sufficiently old warrior, be captured in her own quarters. The Gorean girl is literally educated, fortunately or not, to the notion that it is of great importance to know how to please men. This prepares a girl who will be a Free Companion, and never a slave, to learn that preparation and serving of food, the arts of walking, and standing, and being beautiful, the care of her man's equipment, the love dances of her city and so on. There is really no question as to what is found pleasing to men. It is the beauty, the grace, the intelligence and wit that they find in women..."             Nomads of Gor Late one evening, four FreeWomen of Gor knelt together in a quiet room; they felt a kindred spirit between them and began to talk. One raised the question of sexuality in FreeWomen, glances were exchanged, and a twinkle came into their eyes. What lead up to this subject was a FreeWoman asking a question of the others; had any experienced crying during or after sex...not in rage, not in sadness...but as an emotional release...a release of built up tensions perhaps. The answer was a unanimous YES! She was much relieved as she thought she was the only one to have experienced this. To be a Gorean FreeWoman not easy. We must be aware that we are under much scrutiny in the way we behave, but it can also be extremely rewarding, we are permitted to be a woman and there is no need for the sham of trying to prove ourselves better than men or anyone else.We like to think of the term "FreeWoman" as being "Free to be a Woman". Not much is written regarding the emotions of FreeWomen, and perhaps slaves and indeed some Men regard us as cold, unfeeling and emotionless beings, and judging by the actions of some FreeWomen they could be forgiven for this assumption. First and foremost we are women, and only free in the sense we are able to make decisions for ourselves. We are every bit emotionally dependent on Men as are our slave sisters. To be without emotions, the human spirit is dead, we would be nothing but automatons, performing routine tasks with no joy, no happiness, and no fear. We hope now to dispel some of the myths about FreeWomen. Perhaps the difference between slaves and FreeWomen, is that the FreeWoman comes to Gor seeking only one Man, and she is content to wait until that Man comes along. That is not to say, she does not become sexually frustrated at times, and perhaps even has a dalliance with one or two Men during this period; she even becomes jealous of some of her slave sisters for their apparent happiness. This then can account for some of the "bitchiness" that is seen happening, but it is not within her own personal codes of conduct to strip herself of her robes and veils to beg a collar. She may also be Companioned (or married) offline and seeks only the company of likeminded people with whom to converse, and therefore has no interest in dalliances in the cyber world. This aloofness is often misconstrued as frigidity and the FreeWoman is mocked and scorned by those who do not understand. She cannot be slave; it is not within her to serve all Men. Some FreeWomen are very private individuals, and are not able to verbalize their intimate thoughts or desires, and their shyness can also be misinterpreted. A FreeWoman is very often a submissive creature, and is sometimes criticized for her "slave-like" qualities. How lucky the Man that sees her for what she is and takes her for his Companion, he has the best of both worlds. Other Women are not submissive, but they are subordinate to Men, they are strong women, intelligent, educated and also possess the same emotions, wants and needs as their sisters and complement the Men who choose them as their Companions. In truth we are only women, and our emotions run the whole gamut from intense sadness to extreme happiness and ecstasy. In the arms of our lovers we can be every bit as enticing and pleasing as the hottest slut. A FreeWoman is not "out to get" every slave who looks sideways at her. There are clashes of course, but mostly these are clashes of personality, not of status. It would do well for a FreeWoman to remain on good terms with all she encounters; who knows, the Man she ultimately seeks could have her surrendering and his steel about her neck. FreeWomen do not seek to be men's equal, if that were the case they would definitely not choose to do so with Goreans. FreeWomen on Gor walk on a tightrope… they are constantly searching for a balance… To be firm enough with the slaves and yet be submissive enough with the men. One false step and she's falling down. It's not easy some of us will fall into the trapdoor of being scared to offend slaves because we are perceived as the "B……'s that are jealous of slaves". And this from both sides; the slaves and the Masters. Slaves will always be slaves and Men will always be Men… but FreeWomen must constantly keep alive both sides of their personalities; the Free and the slave. It's not an easy thing to do. It's also a lonely road, there are so few of us out there that are in essence FreeWomen. Slaves have more interactions with the Men then we do, and the vast majority of Men prefer the companionship of slaves to that of FreeWomen. So we are usually left to fend for ourselves. And within ourselves we stand alone… so many false ones… so few that are really free… we doubt and mistrust our peers… we keep them at arms length until we are sure… after all we too have been hurt by falseness and lies… we are weary and tired. We suggest that we should change this… within the Gorean community online we should instead seek out one an another instead of hiding behind our proverbial veils. A few of us have started already… and have found friends It is said: "Inside of every FreeWoman there is a slavegirl, and inside of every slavegirl there is a FreeWoman." We wish you well. Rakella & Opal