So, What About You?

Every time kessia watches a battle group pull in from a six month deployment and the sailors disembark, she does so with a smile and a sad sigh. For many, it is a happy time. Men get to see babies that were only ’lumps’ when they left, sailors and their spouses hug and kiss. Others return to an empty house, an absent or ex-spouse, and a ton of debt for which they are legally liable. It seems some trusted the wrong sort of person, or got fooled into thinking that their spouse was faithful and responsible. Sadly, this sort of thing is not unusual and it drove a girl to think about trust in the context of an M/s relationship.

We all know how important it is that girl be able to trust her Master. Without absolute trust, a girl could not surrender herself into slavery or serve her Master fully. There are scads of warnings about the importance of trust, and of knowing to whom you are surrendering before you show up at his doorstep and beg him to tie you to a bed. There are warnings for men about girls who lie and fake and who got caught, but it seems to kessia, there are just not enough. Certainly, an untrustworthy Master can hurt, wound and otherwise permanently harm a girl, but it seems overlooked that an untrustworthy girl can screw up another person’s life pretty effectively too.

Men have, in some ways, even less of a safety net than a girl does. What many do with slaves is at the very least, disapproved of by society, and at worst, illegal and punishable by law. Think about it: Little suzy slave ’signs up’ to be property with the intellectual understanding that she can be punished for failing to please her owner. She messes up and ends up getting a butt whupping. She discusses it with her friends, who proclaim her to be "abused" and who spread her owner’s name all over the internet as an abuser, trashing him in the gossip network that runs so rampant. Eventually, suzy buys into the abuse theory and reports him to the police. Now he is in hot water with the law because he punished his slave, with little legal recourse because of his lifestyle. Or perhaps some girl with her knickers in a knot gets a hold of his name and SHE reports him to the police and now both Master and slave have to deal with an investigation. All because little suzy slave was not trustworthy enough to accept what she signed up for and keep quiet about it.

As absolutely as we have to trust the men we serve, they also have to trust us before allowing us into their lives. An untrustworthy slave can potentially ruin a man’s career, get his name in the papers, or make his life most difficult. That a slave could have this sort of power is one of the drawbacks to the society in which we live. It is up to the slave to make sure she is deserving of any trust a man has in her and weigh her intentions carefully before begging that a man own her.

So how trustworthy are you? Do you sit in channel and discuss your owner’s business? What would happen if he had to travel for work and left you in charge of his household? Could you be trusted to take care of things without running him into debt? Would he be like those sailors who come home to an empty house and 40K of credit card bills? Are you one of those girls so quick to whisper "guess what Master So and So did?" or "guess what suzy slave did?" to any slave who will listen?

Perhaps this will provide some fodder for self examination, and illuminate how careful a girl must be to not lose the trust of her owner or the free she is permitted to serve. This girl hopes that each one reading this is able to answer these questions well, and know in her heart that she is worth trusting.

One wishes all well.
kessia{Sage}