The Basis of a Practical Relationship Between a Man and His Woman

Acknowledging value in one another, and believing in mutual values pertaining to one another - Series 3 of 4

3 of 4 in the series part 1 is: HERE part 2 is: HERE

"Man’s mind is his basic tool of survival. Life is given to him, survival is not. His body is given to him, its sustenance is not. His mind is given to him, its content is not."

It is difficult to find a match in life to mate with. It is more then difficult to know that person is one you will lust, emotionally need, and love faithfully till the end of your days. What if we created a recipe that made sure only candidates of the highest value would be considered for us as life long partners, and would this formula have a chance of survival.

I say, yes. In part 1, and 2 of this essay I formatted part of this recipe for relationship success. We have spoken on physical requirements, and desires. We have spoken on honesty in presenting those values to the opposite sex. This series will guide and enlighten you to focus on your own value system and seeking it as a match to a partner of the opposite sex. In the end most of us on a whole desire a companion to live our days, success, and failures with, a reliable and trustworthy half to our own souls. I should acknowledge that these documents are based on a relationship between a free man, and a free woman. This series does not apply to slaves, as their relationship is an entirely different paradigm. If you value honor, and it has been determined that slaves can not act with honor using the definition of ownership. Slaves can not own. It is feasible to acknowledge this series reflects relationship issues between the free.

"The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer - because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut... He does not seek to gain his value, he seeks to express it."

"Henry the VIII and Pablo Picasso use tension as a smokescreen for intimacy and need the dueling of two women to feel all bristling and manly. I believe it is not the men that issue this, but the women who believe the men want this sort of interplay before initializing a relationship. The truth of the matter is.. IF women listened rather then talked, they would hear the small nuances of what the male is seeking without words."

It is the art of perception, and unassuming nature laced with strong communication that will enable the foundation of a value exchange. In essence, that which a man values is what he will be seeking in his partner.

"It is an act that forces him to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and to accept his real ego as his standard of value."

Both parties must be interested in each other. This can not be a one-sided relationship. Communication is absolutely critical in this situation. Two people need to listen to their biological truths. It is not enough for men to know they are capable of being dominate, they must act upon such methods, in actions. Women, in retrospect as well. It is not enough to know you are free, you must carry yourself, and understand your place with a strong man.

We have determined that there are several factors in enabling a successful recipe to a relationship in the philosophy of Gor. These tools based on the Philosophy enable us to achieve a higher standard of value, Unmitigated honesty, and the desire to be physically pleasing to one another. A female will find no objection in being desirable, and surrendering her femininity to her life partner. A male will be have no objection to being the captain of his soul, and his life thereof. He will not be mandated by Societies failure to recognize the masculinity which is his right. He is not compromised by his maleness or his values, he embraces them into his life.

It determines our rights as gender orientated in our society and accepting that men and women are two separate creations with following limitations that are absolutely noticeable.

The Gorean philosophy tells us that certain values are positive, and that those values are natural human traits, intrinsic to our biological morality. Courage, integrity, commitment, responsibility, loyalty, fidelity, discipline, keeping one's vows, defiance in the face of oppression. The expression of these values, at the risk of personal loss, is called Gorean honor. They are part and parcel of the human spirit, it's highest aspirations, which lead to true freedom and greatness.

That freedom is called Gor for some, and for others a different path down a different Philosophy. That we acknowledge the value we invest in one another, expect more then the standard quota of what we should be, and dream higher will always be part of what is deemed absolute commitment.

I wish you well,

Nyre

Intended to that Mean Ole Lion

Copyright © Nyre 2001

To be continued......; Shared Vision for the Future; Four of Four