Greetings, Masters, Mistresses, and kajirae,

Welcome to kajira korner!

One hopes you enjoy this new edition of kajira korner and encourages you send questions or comments to:      kajira_korner2000@yahoo.com     kajira_korner2000@yahoo.com

Greetings kajira korner,

Dear kajira korner-

This slave is going to finally meet her owner in the flesh after being owned online for a year!! She is very nervous that she won't live up to his expectations. It's one thing to type out the right responses, to mask a few of her emotions when they aren't pleasing, to always be seductive no matter how she feels online. What if he asks her to dance?? How can she possibly be pleasing to him every moment she is allowed to serve him? What kind of safety measures should she take? Help!!!

-taking the leap

Dear taking,

While kajira understands your hopes, and your worries about being found pleasing, she thinks you first have a responsibility to yourself (and children if you have them) to BE SAFE. She asks that you please, please start by reading this website:Gorean Safety

And this discussion board: http://pub73.ezboard.com/bgoreansafety

And this post: http://pub14.ezboard.com/fsilkandsteelgorcommunitythebearbitchproject.showMessage?topicID=51.topic

If you have done nothing to insure your safety during this offline meeting, then you must have a deathwish. Though you are thrilled and excited and nervous, you absolutely must take care of your safety first. Have a safe call. Make sure you have all of his information. Leave an itinerary with someone and do not deviate from it without calling your safe call first. Fact is, most men understand the need for precautions as they read the same news we do, hear the same horror stories we do, so she doubts any of this will offend him.

Once you have done the best you can to insure your own safety, understand that no matter how close you are online, a first meeting is just that: A first meeting. He very probably will not expect you to be a 'wonder-slave', and all you need to do is your best.

Please, be safe have some fun and relax!

Wishing you well,

kajira{Generic}

Dear kk-

i screwed up with my Master and willfully disobeyed his commands. i know it was wrong, and i fessed up, accepted the consequences and learned a lot from this horrible experience. i didn't expect forgiveness or leniency. He released me, which i deserved but it broke my heart nonetheless. On top of that, he told me and everyone else i failed. Another girl told me that means i can never be owned again because i am a failed slave.

Is that true? How can i prove i learned from this if everyone has written me off as failed? i know it will be a long time before anyone believes in me again, but i don't know if i should even be trying to serve.

sincerely,

branded a failure

Dear branded,

First off, kudos to you for being honest and admitting that you disobeyed! Ideally none of us should ever be willful or disobedient, but in reality, most of us screw up every now and again. It takes some nerve to admit it, and more nerve to quell one's expectations.

People get all tangled up in the word "failed", especially online. Yes, you did fail....to be obedient. If you are a slave, you cannot fail at being who you are. That would be like looking at a cat and saying "You peed outside of the box! You have failed as a cat and will never be a cat again!" How ridiculous is that?

Remember, now that you are uncollared, some other slaves will see you as competition. Yes, this is stupid and wrong, but it is reality (well, cyber reality). So, as you hear their advice, remember they may not actually have your best interests at heart.

She doubts everyone has written you off as failed, though it may be some time before you are allowed to do much of anything. This girl would advise you to keep trying, keep working, and continue to be honest! Eventually a Master will notice, and you might just be allowed to serve again.

Wishing you well! kajira{Generic}

Addendum to the shaving question:

She thanks everyone who emailed with comments and questions this month and offers a couple more shaving suggestions she received.

Master Pharmacist writes: ...." I heartily endorse the Gillette Mach 3, which I use on my own cheeks and neck (around the edges of the beard) with "King of Shaves" aerosol gel. I would speak out most strongly, however, against the daily use of antibiotics, particularly if only to ward off shaving rash. One pharmaceutical headache that we have these days is the rise of antibiotic-resistant bacteria, and the surest way of rendering any given antibiotic less effective in the long term is to over-prescribe and over-use it."

She called her new dermatologist and he concurred, suggesting that the antibiotic cream be used for only a day or two if tiny red bumps formed.

slave{A} suggests:" may a girl offer the suggestion of using A&D ointment ..also desitin works well afterward also, but A&D tends to melt against the irritated skin and one can use it as often as she feels the need to.. she has found over the 3 yrs of shaving, that more frequently is better then skipping a day or two."

Please keep the comments and questions coming!!

She wishes all well!

kajira{Generic}