Taking time out

From time to time, there is someone that says "that’s it! I’ve had it I’m leaving!".

The lies, the cheats, the pretenders, the predators, and etc… etc…

Let’s face it… after awhile we all get fed up and disgusted.

Disappointments, set backs and deceptions seem to multiply and grow out of proportion. We become disillusioned and bitter.

However let’s not forget… this is not pertinent to only online… these things surround us also offline.

From time to time you need to take a step back and retreat to have a change of scenery, a vacation, a break… from everything you do.

The more you invest of yourself, your time and energy, the more it becomes necessary for some time away. If you do not do so, you will burn out. And this is just as valid for this online community as it is in your job or everyday life.

A lot of us, spend time online to learn or to impart knowledge, worthwhile to be sure. But learning becomes an obligation and teaching becomes a chore, when that’s all you do day in and day out.

When things get overwhelming online, why use the same principle… step out… take a couple of days, weeks… instead of logging on… read a book (a non Norman one J ), rearrange your furniture, write, watch a movie (during the time you usually log on) or a sports game. If you are married/FC’ed or have kids, take a night out to have a family or couples dinner.

When you do come online, instead of searching for that Gorean topic to talk about, why not simply tell of your day? Went shopping, work, not work etc…. etc… I know some channels frown upon this, but all of us have those people to whom we chat in private with. It does not have to be a *Gorean Gorean* subject all the time.

If you are Gorean, then everything you do in your daily life is a topic of Gorean interest.

This is a community, we should be able to touch upon all facets of our lives freely. We are not only here to learn of things Gorean, but also to learn of each other.

It’s to me a sad state of affairs, that people feel that they should not become too personal in channels because it’s not *Gorean*. It’s a added amount of stress to constantly be searching for something *Gorean* to say, as if the rest of our lives did not matter and bore no weight in the balance of things.

If you follow the Gorean philosophy then it permeates your every action and word, then everything you do is affected by your outlook, how you handled a situation at work, how you behaved at dinner last night.. are all things that proclaim your views… for it is with your knowledge and beliefs that you function in every day life… so those are important to share also.

Well just some things to think about J for this month

Well wishes everyone

Rakella.

Rakella@usa.net

Tonight this girl watched a television program, not really a typical activity. The show was one of those humor/drama/soap opera types, but the thing that caught and held this viewer was the one direction the story line was taking. One of the men was having what modern society would term a "mid-life crisis". Striking out at his wife, friends, and co-workers in what to them must have been bizarre and strange ways.

This girl broke into a huge grin watching the events unfold. "I am tired of being a sensitive woman/man" He yelled. In a support group of similar men he decried the emasculation that women had effected on the males of society... springing to his feet with a boisterous rush of words proclaiming himself a MAN. In a later interaction with his "wife", he told her point blank that he was tired of catering to her. His words were that he was old-fashioned. He wanted kids, and a wife who stayed at home raising them, to cook, clean, and his final words... "To put my needs first".

This girl was riveted. Almost cheering him on. His "wife" proclaimed that he was going through "something", and that when the therapist finally figured it out for him, months from then he would realize that all he really wanted was out of the marriage and this was his excuse. Obviously, the writers haven't read the Gor books, or the ending might have been somewhat different.

It would be interesting to see what might happen to a man such as this if in the face of his raging at society and the emasculation he was feeling he were to suddenly discover the world of Gor. This girl would never presume to speak for the way men think, so really couldn't say if any of the men who call themselves Gorean have felt somewhat like this man did. The one thing this girl did think about though was how different our society would be were the men who face this situation to pursue those feelings instead of letting themselves be convinced that they are just having a mid-life crisis and need therapy.

In a later program, this time a sitcom this girl watched again. One of the main characters, a woman, proclaimed to another on the subway that in the face of equality women had given up the "little niceties" that make life a bit more convenient. The older woman stated that forty years ago on that subway a man would give up his seat for a woman, and now they were forced to stand. The "heroine" went on to state how much she missed men opening doors for her, pulling out her chair, etc. And her last comment to the woman was "I am not a lesbian, I just hate men".

This seriously made this girl think. Has so much damage been done to the men of our society that hating them is the only recourse a woman of earth has? This one knows from personal experience that finding a man who is intelligent, humorous, full of life, vigorous, joyous, and mostly strong, not physically, but mentally is tough work. Until this girl came to Gor she had all but given up on ever meeting one who was "all that, and a bag of chips". Here she has met many. Men who are uncompromising in what they want from a woman, who not only demand the women serve them, as our previous "hero" said putting their needs first, but expect it.

Far more than society will acknowledge women crave strong men. It is afterall, natural. Survival of the species demands that a woman search for the strongest male to mate with. It is instinctive, it is natural, and it IS inherent in every woman, Free or slave. It is also obvious that society teaches women to deny this urge. "Men must be gentle, loving, nurturing." " We as women have to teach them how to do that." "Find your feminine side." Personally, this girl would much rather "find" a man who is strong. This girl would trade the niceties of a subway seat, or someone holding the door open, or a man who instead, with his uncompromising MALE dominance brought his joy of life into existence and fought like hell to keep it regardless of what society has to say about it. A man whose very presence stirs the air around him, and in whose eyes one finds truth, happiness, and the knowledge that he found his feminine side.... at his feet.