Another Chapter

It is a facade of many colors, drawing from the lightest to the very darkest of shades of human behavior. The online community is staggered, just as our countries, states, and cities are. The participants are no different then the social casting of real life, a term "on-liners" refer to as reality. A diverse group of Men and women not always of legal age interacting with one another, Internet Relay Chat.

Gor is a Chapter.

The majority of participants in the online world of Gor accept fully the order of nature. Men are defined as natural leaders of a world far removed from Earth. Women are defined as either Free, or enslaved, but in essence the property of Man. We often look to a series of books, that carries adventures of characters.

When Men and women enter the Gorean channels, their identities are based upon their actions, and words. We have amongst our group, lawyers, computer technicians, writers, salesmen, nurses, full time parents, students, and many other occupations, A list too long to describe. Such an array of vast diversity! I often call it; the collective of intelligence. The actual Gorean community, as you can guess, is very small. They do not claim this is a fantasy role or character in which they play, while wives are away, and boredom strikes in, or while husbands are at work. It is a Lifestyle choice, simple. In whole statements such as:

I am just a Man.

I am just a slave.

I am Just a Free Woman.

Can be heard echoed over what we call the information highway.

It is a matter of where you fit or do not fit in to a philosophy. It must apply to your direct well being, and needs. Educate yourself as you enter this medium of IRC, for you are not automatically accepted by the people who are fixed in channels just because you state, "I am, Gorean." Your actions, and honesty will earn merit, and close relationships. Childish antics and bully tactics, such as , "I'm an assassin, here to take your head, paid by Unknown." are justifiably ignored. No one rightly cares how big your sword is, or how many veils you wear to conceal your face. Of online Men, most are patient and understanding, answering various questions. Solving with advice many situations that do arise. A small percentage even take further the philosophy and live it.

Not every Man will look upon a Free woman as an asset, in fact they may put you through a mirage of swaying tactics. If we are so intelligent to be open minded, to leave years of conditioning, we also have the ability to take only what is verified as worthy information. If you have stayed this long, your strength has already been noted. Don't take it personally. How could another even know who you are on the other side unless you have spent much effort to show it?

When we assume, which is apparent we all do, those assumptions are sometimes incorrect. It is fact, Goreans are arrogant. It is again, fact that Goreans debate strongly. Thus you are now seated with a round table of passionate, intelligent, and very strong minded persons. These are the sort that love their choices, and regard their lifestyle very proudly. Some have met real life, sharing their families, and actually beholding home stones. Holding Grass as only Men can do. Discussing amongst themselves how they live their philosophy in the constraints of today`s times. Compromise is not a huge part of this foundation, the will of Men is.

With a simple philosophy you would think it would not be so difficult to understand. However it can be. A woman can become easily confused , and lost in this medium. It is not so difficult to forget why you came, Free Women, or why you remain. You truly must know yourself to participate. Self-esteem is a definite factor in this mix. It will show your reactions, and behavior very clearly.

Choose very carefully, whom you will believe. Being naive enough to think Men will open doors and treat you with respect, just because, does not apply here. Trust your choices. If you are honest and forthright, it is doubtful you will be humiliated or assumed anything but what you are. Stand by your choices. Indecision tells all we are not prepared. So please educate yourself, and be consistent. Feelings can be hurt, very easily. Women are emotional. Health facilitators tell us because of that emotion, we live five to ten years longer then the Male. That one fellow or another who will not aid you in channels is not issuing personal disfavor.. Most have no opinion one way or another of Free women. The mass collective owns slaves, not companions.

With our conditioning, seeking approval and fitting in has always been a very sensitive issue. Those that have been called outcast in society, recall all to often how bullies have hurt them mentally, and usually very deeply. Whereas those that were leaders and very outgoing , can't recall those that they hurt. It does happen online, just as it happens to this day, in our school systems with our children, and at our places of work. We might as well accept it, for obviously it is not going away. There is only one solution. You are not a person that has to be liked because some one else has declared it. You already have your own best friend. Yourself.

I learned a great deal this month about my self as a person in the face of adversity. I am sensitive to what others think of me. I do assume a great deal about people based on their words. I do feed those with my reactions. I also know, I am able and mature enough to stand by who I am. I am a Free woman. Reactions are sometimes all the fodder another needs to continue with senseless jibes. It was a well learned lesson.

I wish you all well in future endeavors, hoping that with so much information at our fingertips we can utilize it , rather then abuse it for amusing us in times of boredom. We are capable of learning, and changing. The only question is, will you?

Respectfully,

Nyre