Do Men of Gor Owe Free Women?

Tal, Ladies

We are quickly moving through the months of winter, and heading full steam towards spring. With that in mind this month’s topic will be based on relationship/contractual expectations. It seems to be when we associate months, February, represents that of love and new romance.

Recently I saw the above topic on the Gorean Public Boards. I found it interesting to say the least. I will begin with what I would envision a day in the life of a free woman on this planet of Gor.

I will name my example Z.

Z stems from a wealthy family of merchants, and lives in splendor, she has need for nothing, and yet her age has indicated to her father that it is well past time to companion her to another. Her value is high, as she is a beautiful girl, and in good health to bare children. She is reserved, and demure. She loves her father, and adores her mother. She has made the frightening trek to the Sardar fair and has returned unscathed. Now it is time for negotiation to begin on her placement with a male. Do to the wealth that her families name has earned, and enjoyed these past years, arrangements were sealed very soon after her birth. She will be joined with a business partner’s son. The son has prepared a home for his new companion to oversee, and leaves such detail as decoration, and kitchen to her. She will be encouraged to organize, and diligently take over these aspects. She will also be a hostess to his business meetings, and affairs. Most importantly she will bare him the finest of sons. This he looks forward to with great passion, and happiness.

He has watched the woman Z go from a child with braids, to a beautiful woman over the years. He has supped with her family, watched her sit by the ponds of her estate, it is almost certain he will love her, and encourage growth, and watch with pride as his family grows.

The contract that will be signed, and then sealed with wine most likely will include a sum of money to be paid, and gifts for such a joining. With Z, she will also bring possessions, and furnish such a new home. Marking it with her distinction, and taste. Promises of safety, her well being would surely be clearly spelled out, as well as her obligation to bare children, to always maintain a position of decency, and expectations required between the two parties. On her failure of this part it could be included she would be returned to her family for a sum of money, or that this companion could enslave her, depending upon what was decided. She will however have, food, shelter, a husband under what our Society would call this joining, and the integrity of the fellow she was to join with.

Does a free man owe a free woman anything?

My next depiction with be that of Z again in our Society, based on the same aspects of wealth. It is doubtful she would be pre arranged for her marriage however her parents might lean towards certain men that would be suitable to her class. She will be educated, and supported in that education. She will be required to perform well in these studies as befitting her surname. If she has her head on right she will stay away from the common pressures of Society for women her age. Sex, drugs, alcohol, and compromising positions. It is possible after she finishes her education that she will travel for experience to various places. On returning to home, she may even decide for herself to find a entry level position, her own living quarters. The truth is though she will be an independent woman who is given the freedom, and choice to direct her life as she sees fit. When she does choose to marry, if she does, there is also a contract. One in which is 50% likely to fail. She will be the only woman in her man’s life that she will know about, as slavery is quite illegal on earth, and having a mistress isn't exactly acceptable. If this arrangement fails, our system will carry her through splitting assets and children’s custody. Often messy, and hurtful are these processes.

Does a man owe her anything?

To answer the first part of this question, yes. A Gorean male does owe his companion each detail signed and sealed before their parents, and friends. He owes her the sanctuary he promised to take her too, and protection of his name. I doubt that he will not love her as she bares him the first of his sons, and that son grows strong, and right in the eyes of his father. I doubt he will not enjoy to be with her physically, and does so often because she is pleasing. This is a reality of people who commit themselves to one another.

With that said, I will now look briefly at the relationships based online. If they are not sealed off line I believe the value is very little, as a person can not live in a text box. If you can not see the eyes of the person you commit to what would enforce any sort of relationship, or reasoning to uphold the values of contracts, and promised words. It is a known fact many who have taken a free companion online are already married, and have ignored the partner they made vows to simply because they have not read of this philosophy, or have no interest in this philosophy. Hence under their observation of thus, it makes their reality non value.

I encourage women that are free, and single to research those offers in which they are presented. You are of value, and you do have expectations as do the males that want your favor. It would be a disservice to yourselves if you did not weight this matter very seriously. Roleplay has its place, but when placed in a serious relationship that will directly impact your life, and how you will carry yourself, you owe it to your consciousness to be prepared and ready to make the leap of committing.

Wishing well thoughts to those of Gor,

Nyre
Intended of Lion

nyre@home.com