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Greetings, Masters, Mistresses, and kajirae, Welcome to kajira korner! One hopes you enjoy this new edition of kajira korner and encourages you send questions or comments to: kajira_korner2000@yahoo.com kajira_korner2000@yahoo.com kajira{Generic}
Dear kajira korner, A girl is Owned property. She loves her Master with every flowing ounce of blood inside of her with every breath she inhales, yet the following confuses a girl and she really needs some advice. This girl is joyful of who she is. She has been kajira for a long time and she knows her place very well, but her Master has never touched her, in the several months He has owned her she has been nothing more then the girl that He ruffles her hair. Now a girl knows and realizes that it is a Master's right to never lay a finger on His property, she realizes this, but is it also not a Master's place to make a girl feel useful? She knows she is nothing more than animal, she knows she has no rights she knows her words mean nothing she knows all this all too well and doesn't question this, but she doesn't understand how her chain sister that has been in the same home as this girl for a lot longer, one that is loud like a subbie, always with something to sayncan woe her Master so. Everything this girl does is just with the words *Exquisite beauty, absolute Obedience* in mind. Still, she relishes to feel His touch to just know that she is not ugly to Him. When a girl tries to be outspoken like her sister she is asked by Master, who are you? what are you? Who's are you. Master knows that this girl knows who, what and Who's she is and these things are never asked of to her sister. Her sister is allowed to play be loud etc. Yet this one is expected to be the perfect kajira, the wonderous slave of beauty. Why? She begs can someone explain this to her, help her to understand why? For Masterwill not answer these questions. Hoping you can help,
Dear puzzled, One feels for your confusion and pain, and hopefully will be able to help you make a little bit of sense of what is going on in your life. No matter how much a girl is a slave in her heart, there are still hard lessons to be learned on the path to becoming the "perfect kajira". Two of those lessons that seems to trip many girls are acceptance and patience. One understands that you feel useless and undesirable becuase your owner treats you more platonically than you would like. A girl also sees that you do not understand why your chain sister, who you say has been in this house longer than you have, gets treated differently than you. You try acting like her, it doesn't work and you are left feeling like she gets an unfair amount of preferential treatment that she does not deserve. While your feelings are valid, you need to take a close look at what this girl just wrote. You are not being treated in a way that will make you feel accepted and desirable. It is easy to nod and think "When one has a Master, he will treat this girl however he wants". It is harder to be smacked in the face with the knowledge, and harder still is having the Master treat you just how he wants and it happens to be a way that is difficult for you to understand or accept. It may be that he brought you to his home to be a companion to his other slave, or just to clean and read aloud to him. Whatever the reason, he brought you there, and since he hasn't told you to go, he must still want you there. Whether you see it or not, your presence does have some function, some usefulness to him or you just would not be there. One would suggest that you spend some time thinking, and make a list of the ways in which you are useful to your owner. Not the ways in which you want to be useful, but the things you actually do for him or in his home that are of use. It may very well be that you are not useful in the ways you want to be and that could be simply because he feels you have not earned it yet. As far as your chain sister goes, the "correct" answer is that he can treat her however he wants and it does not have to be the same as he treats you. He can give her chocolate and let her get her hair done twice a day, it just doesn't matter. She is his business and his property. Yes, this is unfair but that is the way it is. Jealousy is normal, comparing oneself to one's sister is normal. Even so, you will have to guard yourself againt making judgements while you handle your feelings. You said: "but she doesn't understand how her chain sister that has been in the same home as this girl for a lot longer, one that is loud like a subbie, always with something to say can woe her Master so. Everything this girl does is just with the words *Exquisite beauty, absolute Obedience* in mind." As this one sees it, you have just not only insulted all submissives, your sister, but also your Master for not making her act like you think she ought to. One is pretty sure this was not your intent, but it does illustrate the need you have to school yourself in your acceptance of your situation. You may want to take some time to think about how those judgements have affected your behavior and attitude, both toward your Master and toward your sister. As you say, she has been in his home longer so she may have earned the priviledge of being a bit mouthy. It may be a part of her personality that her Master enjoys. She may be a boisterous, sassy slut and if that was not what her Master wanted, he would change it. Your "job" is not to sit around being resentful and evaluating how unslavelike your sister is. Your "job" is to learn to accept your life, find the ways your Master allows you to serve him, and then serve him to the flat out best of your ability in those areas. When he wants something more from you, this girl bets he will let you know. *smiles* One thinks that you will find that as your patience and acceptance increase, so will your chance to shine for your Master. One hope this helps you on your path,
Dear kajira korner, This slave entered Gor a few months ago, and thought it was a game. She wanted to be pleasing to the men, and it seemed like all the girls were slender with waist long hair and waif like features. On her web site, she posted a picture of a model as herself. Now this girl has met a Master who she cares about deeply who wants to meet this girl offline. She is terrified that he will not speak to her if he finds out she does not look like her photos, but she doesn't know whether to try to avoid the meeting or to tell him the truth. What should a girl do? Sincerely,
Dear At a loss, Sadly, you are in a predicament many many girls put themselves in when they come to online Gor. Like you, many start out thinking it was all pretend, or just a role-play and they thought they had to put up a fake picture. Still, we did not all of us put up a picture of Brittany Spears and announce this is what we really looked like. At any rate, the damage is done, and now you need to decide what you will do. Really the choice here boils down to being honest or not. If you decide to keep lying: You can continue to avoid meeting until the Master figures out something is not right with you and sends you away. You can do what scads of girls before you have done and disappear, only to re-appear in a new nick, knowing that it is likely only a matter of time before you are 'busted'. You can take down the picture and make some disclaimer about how you "might be a bit different looking than that old picture". If you decide you want to be honest: You can take down the picture and put up a current one (you might want take a brand new picture with the date or the Master's name so people know how recent it is). You can take down the picture and put up nothing new, or a note asking that people who would like a current picture please email you. Regardless of what you do about putting up a new picture, if you wish to be completely honest, then you pull the old one and then, hard as it will be, you go and find the people who think you look like that 'model' and admit that it is not you. Perhaps you will be given a chance to explain, perhaps you will not. It has been this girl's experience that those who stand up, take the heat and are SCRUPULOUSLY honest in all their future dealings tend to be forgiven. After all, you are not the first girl who was embarrassed because she does not look like the girl on the cover of Dancer of Gor, or who had the misguided notion that she was supposed to put up a 'perfect kajira' pic. However, there is a chance that the Master in whom you are interested will never talk to you again, or may no longer consider you worthy to sit at his feet. Whether you take this chance all depends on what you want: Open, honest dealings with real people online or a made up cyberlife. On a less harsh note; this girl feels for you. One knows not only how daunting it is to show what one really looks like, but also how hard it is to admit that one made a mistake in her understanding of what being a Gorean slave was really about. Good luck,
Dear kajira korner, A girl wrote you about cleaning last month, and thanks you for the advice. Now this one's newest challenge is improving her cooking skills. Any suggestions would be wonderful since this one is about as far from Julia Child as a girl could get. Wishing you well, Dear Wannabe Julia, The first thing this girl would suggest is go and beg to get yourself a decent BASIC cookbook. The Complete Pillsbury is pretty good and so is Good Housekeeping's red and white checked book. The second thing is, once you get the book FOLLOW it. Do not improvise until you get about five good meals learned well. Also, a personal opinion: Use butter whenever possible. It improves the flavor of dishes and baking without adding a whole lot to the fat/cholesterol count. Try not to be too hard on yourself if you turn your first couple of meatloves into meatlike bricks, or if your bread does not rise like it should. While cooking is not rocket science, it does have a knack to it that comes with practice. Last but not least, if all else fails, find someone whose cooking you like and ask them to teach you a few tricks. While many cooks don't share ALL of their secrets, most will be happy to have an admirer around to do the dishes while she learns the basics. Hang in there and keep following recipies and you'll get it. *smiles* Happy cooking! |
