By kaylee{G}

The Privilege of Voice

It is a privilege in the house of the man that owns kaylee to use her voice. This privilege does not come for free, however. With this privilege comes responsibility.

This one is required to use it in a way that effectively communicates with him, and to not abuse the privilege. He holds kaylee accountable for that, and if she does not do so, there is a good chance that her privilege will be revoked, controlled in a manner that is more to his liking or carry a far more serious consequence. While he expects kaylee to provide him with information, he prefers it to be done in such a way that it is consistent with her place in his home, and consistent with what he considers to be of interest or importance.

He communicates differently than kaylee does, and it has taken a great deal of effort on her part to be able to communicate with him the way he prefers. This one cannot change the way he hears her; kaylee can only change how she communicates what she is trying to say. What kaylee considers to be important, he may not which can be frustrating to her at times. Ultimately, she has had to learn what is important to him and let that be her guide. But kaylee has worked to make that change, and is grateful to be able to do communicate with him the way he wants, even under duress. It is one of the areas where kaylee has made the most progress in the time that she had been allowed to serve him.

The man who owns kaylee is the hardest brick wall she has ever rammed her head into- repeatedly. After a while kaylee figured out that for all her effort, it didn’t get her message across any easier and she always ended up with a splitting headache! This one is embarrassed to say how long it took her to figure that out.

A friend recently asked kaylee how she learned to communicate to his preference, particularly when she is highly emotional.

To get to that point of learning to effectively communicate with the man kaylee serves, she needed time, tenacity, and acceptance. This one had to figure out for herself what was more important: saying what she felt she had to say, or having him understand what she was trying to say. If it was understanding, then kaylee has to communicate in a way that he relates to and understands, and also make sure it is something he considers important/of interest.

That included learning his nuances and moods, and figuring out how to best get her message across in a way he will be receptive to and when is the appropriate time and manner in which to do so. It wasn’t easy. This one is still working on it but it’s made her life a lot easier- and a lot less headaches from running headfirst into walls.

The man she serves is extremely logical. kaylee is extremely passionate. It’s been very strange to learn how he works, because it is the opposite of kaylee and it does not feel “natural” to her. It is when kaylee is over-the-top emotional that it is the most apparent how much her communication methods have changed over the time she has been allowed to serve him.

One of the things kaylee learned in a communications class is “know your audience”. This one didn’t truly understood the concept of tailoring the message to a point that the audience not only understands it, but is receptive to how and when it is delivered, until she started putting it into practice at home first.

Being able to verbalize what kaylee is trying to say is one skill- and that is one she hears discussed amongst slaves: how to open up and express things to a man that one might prefer to keep deep inside and unexpressed. But kaylee doesn’t often hear about the second skill that goes along with that: being able to present it in such a way that the original message is the same, but the listener can understand and “hear” it.

This one would highly recommend reading a “how to communicate” book- but then she thinks that should be mandatory reading for everyone over 15 in general. This one knows this has also helped kaylee at work particularly when speaking to a superior who did not communicate the way she does- and it was her responsibility there, too, to find a way to communicate effectively with her superior.

Even so, this one struggles on occasion. This one enjoys talking- a lot. And kaylee knows that soon the privilege of her voice will be restructured again to his liking. Not because kaylee abused the privilege, but simply because he wants it that way. The idea of that restructuring is daunting at times, because how she speaks is so much a part of her personality and this one hopes to continue to be transparent to him. At the same time, accepting that he will mold another facet of her behavior to his liking is peaceful. From that peace, kaylee knows she will draw the strength she will need to get to where he wants her to be.

Until next month, she wishes you well.
-kaylee{G}

kaylee has been the household property of Gabriel for over five years, and together they have shared their passion for writing on his website: www.gor-on-earth.com. Future topics, suggestions, feedback, and questions are always welcome. kaylee can be contacted at: kaylee@gor-on-earth.com