Greetings, Masters, Mistresses, and kajirae,

Welcome to kajira korner!

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Greetings kajira korner,

First of all, a happy Halloween to everyone! Please keep the questions coming!

Hello kajira {Generic},

I have been exploring my submission for four years on Gor. I have read all the books, done some deep soul searching, and do my best to please. The trouble is, I'm lonely. I have not found an owner in all this time. I am lucky enough to serve a few men in the chatroom I regularly go to, and I am very grateful for the chance to be of use to anyone. I keep my eyes open when I go out offline, just in case I may stumble across a man who is Gorean.

I thought I could handle waiting for Master Right... but I never thought it would take this long! I see new girls getting collared two, three weeks after coming into Gor and I wonder if there is something wrong with me.

Sincerely,
losing hope

Finding the perfect life partner, regardless of one's orientation, is never easy and the more "specialized" you are, the harder it is. Some girl looking for a guy, any old guy, is going to have a much easier time finding someone than a deeply submissive woman looking for "Master Right" to build an offline, meaningful relationship. We all know Velcro collars are cheap and easy to come by, it is the ones that are permanent that come at a high cost and take a long long time to find.

Taking the time to understand yourself and your needs is not only laudable, it is much healthier than doing what you see many other girls do; leap headlong into an online collar, using the internet as an escape from the mundanities of life. Instead, you found something that spoke to you, that made you want to learn more, become better and serve. Really serve, not just type pretty words. Reality is never as easy as playing around, but it is more fulfilling.

And, yes. It is lonely.

She thinks all women know the story about getting pregnant, about girls trying and trying to get pregs, with no luck. Then, frustrated, they give up and quit trying so hard. They go out and do non-baby things, like dinner and movies. Within a couple of months, miracle of miracles, they see the magic plus sign that herald sleepless night and other beauteous moments of motherhood.

Put a little differently, the best things happen when we least expect them. So her advice to you is:

Stop looking. It does not seem to be helping you, and may also be hurting your self-esteem and sense of worth to be hunting so hard without "results". So quit. Just quit and find something else to do for a while. If this is something you are unwilling to do for now then she suggests you post a personal ad instead of going into chat. There are a number of places on the internet that do ads oriented to different lifestyles, and if nothing else, it will provide you with some fun reading.
Limit your chat time. Sitting in front of a computer for hour upon hour does nobody any good. Go for a walk, go write, go do ANYTHING other than sit in front of that box for hour after hour. Join a discussion group or two and check the mail once a day so that you will still feel involved, but do not make the internet the focus of your life.

Find something to do with a group. Take a class, join a sewing or quilting guild. Take flute lessons. Just do something that has you out of the house and meeting people.

If you have kids, go out and play tag with them. Paint a picture. Color (if they will let you use their crayons).

Fill your life and your mind with things other than your loneliness and that beigy gray box on your desk. Not only will that ease the void in your heart, it will augment your life in tangible ways.

She wishes you well and good luck,
kajira{Generic}

Wishing all most well,
kajira{Generic}