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Opal speaks on: Free Companionship
Opal speaks on: The role of Free Women in on-line Gor
Opal speaks on: Wise Words on collars
Free Women, Sister hood and other urban myths

Greetings,

My companion has asked me to write of Free Companionship, I shall try to do my best.

Over the past three years on irc-Gor, I have seen the position of Free Woman and Free Companionship denigrate to something a paga slut would not be proud of, and it saddens me. I write these words having been a Free companion on irc and now off-line for five years, in the hope that someone may take heart and understand the feelings she is having are shared by others too.

Many believe that a Free Woman may come and go as she pleases, frequent taverns and sit as Men, this is not so.

If this were Gor she would wear robes of concealment and face veils, her jewelry would not be garish, her perfumes subtle and she would kneel in the manner of a feminine woman. She would not frequent places of Men, and would only be held in esteem so long as she maintained her dignity. A Free companion represents her Companion, and in doing so her manner, speech and actions would always reflect His status.

A Free companion on Gor would be no more than a kajira is to her Master. The difference being that a Free companion serves only Him, and is not given to others for their pleasure. However the Free companion would be no more than chattel - property.

Her duties would be much more than a kajira however, she represents her Companion, she dines beside him in the company of His friends and business associates, therefore she would be articulate. She would keep his books, therefore she would be literate. She bears Him children, she would be nurturing, She maintains His house. She is His lover.

She would be the consummate hostess, all who entered His house would be greeted and made comfortable. The food and drink served would have been over seen by her, and it would always be the very best that her Companion could afford, she would spend his money wisely.

She would own nothing, what she had, what she wore, the food she ate, would have been given by Him. She would not take slaves, unless it was in their contract that she may do so. He on the other hand may take slaves and as many as he pleases. He also may visit taverns and alcove with kajirae should he wish. The Free companion knows this and accepts it.

She would be as much under the discipline of her Companion as a kajira is of her Master. A Free companion would often feel the whip, and on nights when He is displeased, or for no reason except that it pleases Him to do so, she would find herself chained at the foot of the sleeping couch spending a cold night on the tiles.

As there is no such thing as marriage on Gor, Free Companionship is the closest thing there is to what we call "marriage" on earth. Actually it is more honest, there is no sham, a contract would be drawn up and each would know of their commitment before they linked arms and drank the "Wine of Companionship". The contract would be renewed after a period of 12 months, or it would not.

There are other reasons why a contract could be broken prior to the 12 month period ending; the enslavement of either party or an agreement by both parties to end the Companionship.

But this is earth..... usually here the reason for a Free Companionship or marriage is love, you are soul mates, help mates. There are parallels however in what is written in the Chronicles and what it is to be a Free companion off-line.

Free Companionship to a Gorean Man still requires a woman who is submissive, or at the very least subordinate to her Man. She does not dress or act outlandishly in a way that would bring him ridicule, she does not gain say her Man, she may indeed offer advice and at times even criticize, so long as it is constructive criticism. She is "the wind beneath His wings".

Like her counterpart on Gor, she is mindful of her place, secure in His love and needs no reminding that she represents Him. She welcomes guests into His home and ensures their comfort. She takes an active role in the financial situation of the household even to the extent of maintaining her own career and therefore contributing to it. She raises His children to be strong and honest. She is His lover.

A Free Companionship on earth may or may not include Him bringing slaves into the household, this is something that only the couple involved can decide for themselves.

In a Free Companionship a Gorean Man is indeed Master of His own House.

I wish you well

Opal

Why Free Woman participate in the world of online Gor

Disclaimer: These are my thoughts and not the thoughts of any other, it is why I participate in online Gorean interaction, your mileage may vary

It was once asked of me, "what business do Free Women have on irc-Gor and what is it that they think they are achieving?"

Well the first and most obvious answer is because FW are well documented in the books, indeed their numbers were vastly in excess to the number of slaves inhabiting the planet (maybe as much as 40 to 1).

I rarely visit serving channels these days, preferring to engage in discussion rather than having my vanity fanned, ( you know, the slaves calling you "the beautiful Mistress" or the pm's from men) or being bored stupid by endless serves. The books themselves contain all the fiction I need.

Many FW were once slave, and therefore realize what tribulations some girls have in coming to terms with their slavery, in this the FW can act as a guide, mentor and confidant for the newer, unowned girls. There are some men, believe it or not, that do not wish for slaves (shock! horror!) and are happier with a stronger type of women that can be at their side, and in time may become their companion. It has been said, that FW could become hostesses, a source of information for online Gor. There is much merit in that suggestion as many of us have been around for some years and the knowledge we have gained should be passed on.

I guess my reason for visiting online Gor is to be able to meet with people, be they free or slave that are of a like mind. I happen to think most Goreans have an intelligence, strength, honor and integrity that is not found in other online venues. There is much humor, drama and sometimes tragedy in online Gorean interaction, much like our off line lives, but Goreans have a zest for life, and see things in a different perspective than our off line colleagues and friends.

I don't think that FW think they are achieving anything other than trying to do their bit in keeping online Gor, Gorean. Keeping in touch through this medium with other Goreans helps me in times of despair or happiness to see things as they actually are, not as they appear in my imagination. Interaction with Goreans can knock you to your knees or send you to the heights, and if there is criticism it is usually constructive criticism, mostly it is harsh, but I for one find that helpful. It forces you to look at yourself, and do something if you wish to hold your head high in this community.

I have met many people in this community and many I call friend. I remember my first terrifying days on Gor and a FW named Dae who helped me understand what it is to be Gorean. Dae is no more online, my only wish is to emulate her kindness, share my knowledge and when someone needs me I will be there.

I do not suffer fools gladly and those that call themselves FW, I expect to act as such with dignity and grace and know their place within the online Gorean society. I am straight, I do not lie, I tell it the way I see it, I keep confidences to myself and I do not appreciate being lied too. When this happens, and it has happened quite a few times, that person no longer exists to me, there is no use crying about it to others, just shake yourself off and move on sadder but wiser.

With all the sham, the gamers; players, the liars and cheats, online Gor can be a wonderful experience if you interact with the right people, it get's your thinking straight and can make you a better person. You come to rely on people here and in turn they rely on you. These are just some of the reasons why I participate in online Gor.

I wish you well

Opal

Wise words

Someone I consider most wise once said to me, that a girl loses value with each collar she takes.

Today I was talking to my non-Gorean neighbor, a young girl recently married. During the course of the conversation she said "well, I told my husband he is responsible for me now, and if things don't work out, we can get divorced and he will still have to pay for me". She played with the expensive gold and diamond rings on her fingers while I looked down at my plain gold wedding band.

Is this the end result of our throw away society? People actually pledging themselves to one another with an "easy out" in mind?

I look around irc-Gor and see the same sort of thing, girls wearing one man's collar one week, and another's the next. Do girls actually beg a man's collar with an "easy out" in mind? I think so, collars have become trophies to some of the girls I have met, the more the merrier. There are wondrous collaring ceremonies taking place in channels and girls sporting gold, jewel encrusted collars, the collars rusting and falling off in a matter of days. If only they knew, a band of plain steel about their necks and a man in control, would give them the happiness they crave.

Has commitment become so out dated? A relationship needs hard work to keep it intact, communication not confrontation being the essential key. There is no glamor in being a Gorean slave, it is being true to yourself and your innermost feelings, but once you have surrendered to your belly your journey has begun, seek out the right Master for you, be very sure before you beg his steel, if you have chosen wisely then you will know there is no "easy out".

A girl loses value with each collar she takes.

I wish you well Opal

Free Women, Sister hood; other urban myths

Greetings,

I have an opinion on the topic, it may not be correct, but it is mine.

Free women do indeed take part in Home Stone ceremonies, and while this may give them the sense of importance, they cannot feel the same emotions as do men. Women are not physically able to defend a Home Stone as are men. Certainly they could take part in certain subterfuge (something we women are adept at) in concealing a Home Stone from enemies, and yes even possibly physically try to defend it, to an extent, but a woman would soon be overpowered by a Gorean man, and we are not able to wage war as men are.

As far as holding of grass; earth, the sharing of salt and fire, these are the things of men. Brotherhood amongst men is sacrosanct, it is something that we women do not understand, much the same as honor in a man. I have yet, in my 59 years on this planet, to find the same bonds amongst women.

Women form friendships, some greater than others. Bonds are usually formed between Mother and child, or between siblings. The term "sister" is thrown around irc-Gor almost as glibly as velcro collars are amongst slaves and it means just as little. In the many years I have spent on earth, out of the possibly hundreds of women I have met and have as acquaintances I have only two that I would call real friends and the relationships with both of them have taken 20 and 30 years to build, I would do anything for these women and in return know they would reciprocate. I do not call them "sister" nor do they call me "sister", we are best friends.

You see, we women are by nature pretty cruel and catty towards members of our own sex, we do not trust another woman as much as we would a man and we are damn suspicious creatures. For someone to call me "sister" without truly knowing me, I would view that woman as shallow.

I do not recall any great friendships or bonds between the Free women in the books, if my memory serves me correctly they saw each other as competitors. However as it is a while since I read the books I could be mistaken, and no doubt you will let me know :)

Free women on irc-Gor are under much scrutiny, I would say more so than slaves. All we need is one rotten tospit in the barrel and we are all classed the same. There are many Free women here who are not submissive, but they do have the dignity and grace not to barge in to men's conversations, nor try to speak for men, let alone lecture them! Many of us, myself included, have worked damned hard to be accepted even tolerated on irc-Gor and I will stand beside any woman, providing she is a lady and knows her place.

I have seen some women basically tell a slave "to go to hell", but they do it in such a manner that the slave enjoys the trip! It is one thing to correct a slave, and quite another to be able to instruct at the same time. To order slaves around "just because you can" really get's my hackles up. Many of us came from being slaves ourselves, have we such short memories?

Well that's my two tarsks worth

I wish you well

Opal